Saturday, March 14, 2009

Café Chat March 14th

Today's chat is about insecurities:

First of all, do you struggle with “Insecurity” issues?
If no, why not?
If yes, can you tell of a specific situation that happened to you that brought out your insecurities (the more details, the better).

I do not usually struggle with insecurity or lack of confidence, I tend to be overly confident. Some have called me fearless. In truth, little scares me. When I find my heart trembling with fear, I'm quick to turn to God for confidence.

There have been exceptions. Years and years ago, before I married and "settled down" I spent some time traveling with Ringling Brothers. One Sunday afternoon, between shows, a friend wanted to introduce me to the flying trapeze. I tried to climb the rope ladder and froze about half way up. I wasn't about to go higher and I was afraid to come down. I don't go off the high dive at the pool because once you're up there, down is the only place to go. Maybe it's control issues. I don't snow ski because releasing myself at the top of a steep, slippery surface loaded with dangerous hazards like rocks and trees and turning myself over to the forces of gravity seems foolish. Some of the hazards are hidden or too subtle to avoid during a rapid descent. Why tempt fate?

Child rearing has been a major exception. My last post was all about my insecurities regarding the kids and trusting them with things like Internet access or other worldly influences. Maybe my fears are valid there, but trusting God is the best viable response to any fear.

God has chosen us, we're His adopted children.

"I have chosen you and have not rejected you. So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.... For I am the LORD, your God, who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you." (Isaiah 41:10,13)

Praise God! As long as I am remembering to turn to God in times of trial instead of trying to figure out how to solve problems without Him, I'll do fine.


Denise said...

Beautifully said, bless you.

Toknowhim said...

Thanks for participatinga again today... Blessings to you :)

Anonymous said...

You will do fine.

"Maybe it's control issues." I think not.

Those height and slide fears are more likely to do with how you are physically structured (not mentally or emotionally as in 'control').

If you have ever heard about 'sensory issues' I think what you described comes under that. If you have not ever heard of si, I'd be glad to tell you about it. [When are we getting together again?]

you gotta wonder said...

Hi Denise and TKH, Thank you! I love the Cafe Chat ministry.

Dear Barbara, Thanks as always, for your support. I am not familiar with si, but does sound like something I'll be interested in learning about. We need to start planning our next get-together.

Andrea said...

Traveling with the circus?! Very, very cool! Ringling Bros used to come to our area every June when I was child and since my brother and I had June birthdays, a trip to the circus was always part of our gift! Some fond memories...

I can definitely relate to the control issues you mentioned. That's probably another reason mothering causes me to become insecure at times. I don't have control over everything!

The passage from Isaiah is a great reminder of where our focus should be.

Thank you for sharing your insight.

Anonymous said...

I wanted to drop by to say thank you for your support in my Super Heavy Duty Post on Violence Unsilenced. I appreciate it greatly.

Angela said...

Thank you so much for this powerful post and covering me with that scripture. I NEEDED it...

jubilee said...

What a great verse to go along with this post!