The guys tend to get competitive, but I try to remember that earthly competitions are not about winning or losing. There is no prize on earth worth losing sight of the "crown".
1 Corinthians 9:24-26 Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize.
Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last; but we do it to get a crown that will last forever. Therefore I do not run like a man running aimlessly; I do not fight like a man beating the air.